No, its not what u thought. I don’t tell u how to be courageous but the other way around.
Well, this is my first post here. I am a big admirer of selfless work of Alok and all others.
I am a coward(hows that for intro). Although something is very right with me, i talk so dumb and so cowardly when there is a dialogue as if i am the one who has done the mistake.
For example, i do live in a PG where there is crappy service and the other time when i told them that there is a problem, i actually wanted to lash out for dragging a lot of things resolving, but i cudnt gather the courage to just say that. This as told before is just an example.
I find myself so cowardly in many places and it is for this cowardly stuff that i cudnt take some important decisions in my life, which if taken wud have saved me more than 2-3 years and cud’ve had my life my way.
Now, is there anything constructive to build courage or is it just something that you shud have to feel it from the inside and manifest.
asha chaudhry
hey manjunath…
firstly, i think this a very courageous post. i would never have the courage to ask 5600+ people to tell me how to build courage!!!!
secondly courage is subjective. what may be “holding the peace and avoiding unnecessary confrontation” may seem cowardly to some. everyone has the balls to be aggressive and pushy manjunath. sometimes we choose not to. sometimes we choose to put the bigger picture in perspective than fight over trivia. trust me, when the time comes you will stand up for yourself.
in the meanwhile pls surround yourself with POSITIVE FRIENDS. people who make you happy and make you feel great about yourself. when you’re not busy with work – pls take time out and do stuff that you like. being assertive is no big deal. being a kind and pleasant human being is more valuable in my eyes!
have a rockstar day!
Karan Pandhi
hi Manjunath,
As Asha mam said , it takes courage to ask people how to be courageous. When I fall weak, I have kept the following three videos in my cell phone and they help me get the courage :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_Vg4uyYwEk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXST3asaXcI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DvtxOzO6OAE
These are just videos, I also become courageous by working out, exercising really helps you get courageous.
Courage won’t come from anywhere and it won’t come from anyone, it is you from within yourself you will be able to get courage, its not a learning but its something like when we were kids we fell down and then we got up straight and walked, so you gotta be beaten down to get courage within, that if you cant take a hit and still move on, then you can hit someone and move much stronger.
P.S. – It doesn’t mean you fight, but as in Martial Arts its said you learn to make peace not war.
Sandeep Todi
Visualize how you would want to tackle any upcoming situation, see yourself acting it out in your mind. You’ll automatically summon your inner strength and show courage once you visualize it yourself.
Vinay Chhoda
Manjunath,
Let me start by saying you are probably the most courageous person out there simply by accepting your problem and wanting to do something about it.
Courage is not about getting up one day and saying that today you will go jump off a cliff. Its about making small positive and consistent changes in your life that will change your perspective towards things that normally would freak you out.
a) Do something small everyday which you would never normally do. Get out of your comfort zone. Scared of crowded trains and therefore you take a bus to work? Take the crowded train the next time you go to work.. so what if its crowded.
b) Like Asha said, surround yourself with positive people. People who appreciate you for who you are and not if you have courage or not.
c) Make a To-Do list of things you would like to do, to try, to experience. These could be small lifestyle changes like getting up 15 mins early every day and meditating, etc. Start small and as you accomplish more and more things, you will get the courage to aim higher and higher.
Hope this helps!
Looking forward to a post on ‘How I became courageous?” in the future from you 🙂
Praveen Prabhu
Terrific video links, found answer to a question i had by the Rocky video. The “You want something. Go get it. Period.” has always been a favourite.
Karan Pandhi
Hi Praveen,
Glad the videos helped 🙂
Saraswathi Pulluru
Hi Manjunath,
As others said, an actual coward never comes out in the open 🙂 Hatssoff to your courage!! Our fellow rodinhooders have said a lot of things you can do, so I will just present my 2 cents on this topic.
A lot of how we react depends on the environment we are brought up and the experiences in our life so far. I think that, as long as the particular quality is not really causing you any predictable harm in your life – it is good to accept it as part of yourself and see how it has helped to enrich your life. From my personal experience, I know people who are shy to go in a crowd of 3 people. But, when life put them to test, they have taken really steps we don’t even dream they will take. So,everyone has aggression – it’s just a matter of how often and easily those get triggered.
Rahul Kalra
these videos are inspiring.. thanks karan
manjunath
Yes, i’ve been an introvert and yes, positivity reverberates a lot of things. And i’ve been a lot pessimistic all these years which is one more cause i was never courageous. I’ll keep myself happy and optimistic. Thanks.
manjunath
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5AR9laYlXbQ Its one of my fav movies that is anyway dramatic but the character’s perseverance inspires me. Btw, tnx
manjunath
thats something even i thought of. but i wanna go with the flow. Having said that, what u said is a great way 2 start.
manjunath
Thats constructive and very true. If i take this step by step, i’ll reach somewhere and its definitely not about getting up one day and saying that today you will go jump off a cliff. And getting out of comfort zone is a big step towards this. TNX.
manjunath
Agree to the first sentence of 2nd para. But no, i cant accept this as in no way being not courageous has enriched my life. I want to stand up right now and pull that trigger.
asha chaudhry
manjunath… long time no word…??!!!